Marriage Is Gay

I'm 33 years old (34 on Sunday,) single and straight. Unlike a lot of women my age (the clock is ticking, afterall,) I can say honestly, truthfully and with no bullshit that I don't really want to get married. No, I'm not just saying it because I have no "prospects," or even to make some radical statement about the constraints of marriage. Really, I don't think there's anything wrong with marriage or those who want to go down that path. In fact, it has served my parents, who married very young, really well for the last 40 years. I'm saying it, even though it's not a popular statement, because I don't think it's for me. I'm more than ok with that. And, as an independent adult with a full-time job, a healthy retirement plan, an active social life and no children, that is my right. Right?

Why should you care about my dating life? You shouldn't. How does my singleness/lack of relationship affect you? It doesn't. How does my choice in not getting married or having a family threaten your choices? It doesn't.

Then, there are my friends Erin and Betsy. They are both great people, two of the kindest I've ever known. They met in college and have been in a loyal, loving relationship for the last 15 or so years. A few years ago, in front of their two incredible children, Erin and Betsy got married in one of the few states that allows same-sex marriage. And, aside from my parents, they have one of the happiest, most normal families I know. They are adoring, patient and incredibly nurturing parents, the kind I'd want to be if I were a mom.

Why should you care about their relationship? You shouldn't, other than to envy the love and loyalty they have. How does their family affect you? It doesn't, other than to relate to the joys and challenges of raising kids in a modern, loving home. How does their choice to commit to each other and raise a family threaten you? It doesn't. If your marriage or family are threatened by the love and compassion of another's, maybe the problem lies a little closer to home. Otherwise, why deny another human being the security and happiness of a family that differs from yours only in gender? http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/05/09/obama-gay-marriage_n_1503245.html?ref=fb&src=sp&comm_ref=false